My Reply to a Girl's Predicament
I had penned this about six months back. Thought it would be gud to post it here.The initial section is a forward I received and the latter part is my reply to it...
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Here is a girl, who is as much educated as you are;Who is earning almost as much as you do;One, who has dreams and aspirations just as you have because she is as human as you are;One, who has never entered the kitchen in her life just like you or your Sister haven't, as she was busy in studies and competing in a system that gives no special concession to girls for their culinary achievementsOne, who has lived and loved her parents & brothers & sisters, almost as much as you do for 20-25 years of her life;One, who has bravely agreed to leave behind all that, her home, people who love her, to adopt your home, your family, your ways and even your family nameOne, who is somehow expected to be a master-chef from day #1, while you sleep oblivious to her predicament in her new circumstances, environment and that kitchen One, who is expected to make the tea, first thing in the morning and cook food at the end of the day, even if she is as tired as you are, maybe more, and yet never ever expected to complain; to be a servant, a cook, a mother, a wife, even if she doesn't want to; and is learning just like you are as to what you want from her; and is clumsy and sloppy at times and knows that you won't like it if she is too demanding, or if she learns faster than you;One, who has her own set of friends, and that includes boys and even men at her workplace too, those, who she knows from school days and yet is willing to put all that on the back-burners to avoid your irrational jealousy, unnecessary competition and your inherent insecurities;Yes, she can drink and dance just as well as you can, but won't, simply because you won't like it, even though you say otherwiseOne, who can be late from work once in a while when deadlines, just like yours, are to be met;One, who is doing her level best and wants to make this most important relationship in her entire life a grand success, if you just help her some and trust her;One, who just wants one thing from you, as you are the only one she knows in your entire house - your unstinted support, your sensitivities and most importantly - your understanding, or love, if you may call it.But not many guys understand this...
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And This was my reply...Here is a Man, who is as much educated as you are;Who is earning almost as much as you do;but he has three families to look after...his own (which includes you),his parents and society expects him to take care of your parents too as they now have a son among their midsts.One, who has dreams and aspirations just as you have because he is as human as you are and doesn't want to stop until he can give the best for the people who depend on him especially his better half;One who isn't stupid enough to expect that the so called "Modern Nari" has all the culinary talents inherent in the old-school ladies; one who tries to build his culinary skills just because he wants to help his wife who has never entered the kitchen in her life , as she was busy in studies and competing in a system that gives no special concession to girls for their culinary achievements;and he happens to be someone who considers "culinary skills" as a bonus in the resume of a potential life partner.One, who has lived and loved his parents & brothers & sisters, almost as much as you do for 20-25 years of her life and also hopes that the girl he brings into the household is nice enough to love his parents the way he does and avoid the saas-bahu fights.One who likes you for who you are and appreciates the girl, who has bravely agreed to leave behind , her home, people who love her, to adopt your home, your family, your ways and even your family nameOne, who is somehow expected to become a master in decoding "the venus way"...because he's been leading a man's life so far...everythings straight forward for him until now. Now he has to deal with silence,emotions, nagging,a lot of petty fights and cold wars and last but not the least...tears. He'll find it difficult at first...but the constant need to give you the best drives him to try his best to keep you happy. One, who doesn't expect you to make the tea first thing in the morning...he'd rather watch you sleep innocently and remind himself that YOU are his most precious asset; One who respects your need to go work but he also expects you to be sensible enough to set the right priorities for work and family; one who expects that you know that you are the one who'll have to give up the job and be with your kids (at least during their crucial formative years) because GOD can't be everywhere at the same time...so he gave this job to the "MOTHER"...not the "FATHER";even if she has had a lousy, tiring day at the office...he still tries to hear you out (forgive him if he can't do it always...he might have had a bad day too...he needs your smile and comfort to get over his bad day too.)One who doesn't mind if you have your own set of friends, and that includes boys and even men at your workplace too, those, who you know from school days as long as you stay true to you husband and love him unconditionally and share everything.One, who is doing his level best and wants to make this most important relationship in his entire life a grand success, if you just help him some and trust him;One, who just wants one thing from you, as you are the only one for him- your unstinted support, your sensitivities and most importantly - your understanding and love. There are always exceptions to the above. We can only pray that we get the right person. Marriage is an institution that binds two individuals who are READY to work hard to make it a long-lasting one. Nobody gets a perfect marriage...both of them need to work on it.Both of them should let go of their prejudices and keep an open mind. Honesty is the key-word!!!And love....unconditional love. It never bodes well to reject a set of apples if there are a few bad ones,girls. People are afraid to fall in love now days...there is a lot of skepticism going around. You say you like a girl...she always things twice...she's always afraid that something might go wrong and doubts the intentions of the boy. And she's got a good reason to be like that(there are a lot of guys who play around with girls...use them and throw them away.)...but sometimes we need to listen to our heart and trust the person holding out his hand who also has his doubts (as much as girls do) but is willing to give the relationship a try...because he believes he has found his true love and believes that the girl before him could become the best thing that has happened in his life!!!!I’m sure not everyone will agree. But there will be a few who will!!!
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Here is a girl, who is as much educated as you are;Who is earning almost as much as you do;One, who has dreams and aspirations just as you have because she is as human as you are;One, who has never entered the kitchen in her life just like you or your Sister haven't, as she was busy in studies and competing in a system that gives no special concession to girls for their culinary achievementsOne, who has lived and loved her parents & brothers & sisters, almost as much as you do for 20-25 years of her life;One, who has bravely agreed to leave behind all that, her home, people who love her, to adopt your home, your family, your ways and even your family nameOne, who is somehow expected to be a master-chef from day #1, while you sleep oblivious to her predicament in her new circumstances, environment and that kitchen One, who is expected to make the tea, first thing in the morning and cook food at the end of the day, even if she is as tired as you are, maybe more, and yet never ever expected to complain; to be a servant, a cook, a mother, a wife, even if she doesn't want to; and is learning just like you are as to what you want from her; and is clumsy and sloppy at times and knows that you won't like it if she is too demanding, or if she learns faster than you;One, who has her own set of friends, and that includes boys and even men at her workplace too, those, who she knows from school days and yet is willing to put all that on the back-burners to avoid your irrational jealousy, unnecessary competition and your inherent insecurities;Yes, she can drink and dance just as well as you can, but won't, simply because you won't like it, even though you say otherwiseOne, who can be late from work once in a while when deadlines, just like yours, are to be met;One, who is doing her level best and wants to make this most important relationship in her entire life a grand success, if you just help her some and trust her;One, who just wants one thing from you, as you are the only one she knows in your entire house - your unstinted support, your sensitivities and most importantly - your understanding, or love, if you may call it.But not many guys understand this...
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And This was my reply...Here is a Man, who is as much educated as you are;Who is earning almost as much as you do;but he has three families to look after...his own (which includes you),his parents and society expects him to take care of your parents too as they now have a son among their midsts.One, who has dreams and aspirations just as you have because he is as human as you are and doesn't want to stop until he can give the best for the people who depend on him especially his better half;One who isn't stupid enough to expect that the so called "Modern Nari" has all the culinary talents inherent in the old-school ladies; one who tries to build his culinary skills just because he wants to help his wife who has never entered the kitchen in her life , as she was busy in studies and competing in a system that gives no special concession to girls for their culinary achievements;and he happens to be someone who considers "culinary skills" as a bonus in the resume of a potential life partner.One, who has lived and loved his parents & brothers & sisters, almost as much as you do for 20-25 years of her life and also hopes that the girl he brings into the household is nice enough to love his parents the way he does and avoid the saas-bahu fights.One who likes you for who you are and appreciates the girl, who has bravely agreed to leave behind , her home, people who love her, to adopt your home, your family, your ways and even your family nameOne, who is somehow expected to become a master in decoding "the venus way"...because he's been leading a man's life so far...everythings straight forward for him until now. Now he has to deal with silence,emotions, nagging,a lot of petty fights and cold wars and last but not the least...tears. He'll find it difficult at first...but the constant need to give you the best drives him to try his best to keep you happy. One, who doesn't expect you to make the tea first thing in the morning...he'd rather watch you sleep innocently and remind himself that YOU are his most precious asset; One who respects your need to go work but he also expects you to be sensible enough to set the right priorities for work and family; one who expects that you know that you are the one who'll have to give up the job and be with your kids (at least during their crucial formative years) because GOD can't be everywhere at the same time...so he gave this job to the "MOTHER"...not the "FATHER";even if she has had a lousy, tiring day at the office...he still tries to hear you out (forgive him if he can't do it always...he might have had a bad day too...he needs your smile and comfort to get over his bad day too.)One who doesn't mind if you have your own set of friends, and that includes boys and even men at your workplace too, those, who you know from school days as long as you stay true to you husband and love him unconditionally and share everything.One, who is doing his level best and wants to make this most important relationship in his entire life a grand success, if you just help him some and trust him;One, who just wants one thing from you, as you are the only one for him- your unstinted support, your sensitivities and most importantly - your understanding and love. There are always exceptions to the above. We can only pray that we get the right person. Marriage is an institution that binds two individuals who are READY to work hard to make it a long-lasting one. Nobody gets a perfect marriage...both of them need to work on it.Both of them should let go of their prejudices and keep an open mind. Honesty is the key-word!!!And love....unconditional love. It never bodes well to reject a set of apples if there are a few bad ones,girls. People are afraid to fall in love now days...there is a lot of skepticism going around. You say you like a girl...she always things twice...she's always afraid that something might go wrong and doubts the intentions of the boy. And she's got a good reason to be like that(there are a lot of guys who play around with girls...use them and throw them away.)...but sometimes we need to listen to our heart and trust the person holding out his hand who also has his doubts (as much as girls do) but is willing to give the relationship a try...because he believes he has found his true love and believes that the girl before him could become the best thing that has happened in his life!!!!I’m sure not everyone will agree. But there will be a few who will!!!
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